Her husband is supporting her. She claims it happened because she was drunk. Her husband is supporting her. What do you think?
A Carroll woman who was caught having sex in the men’s room at an Iowa Hawkeye football game in Minneapolis last weekend says she’d had so much wine before kickoff that she doesn’t remember walking into the restroom, the man she had sex with in a stall, or when the police opened the door.
What Lois Feldman, 38, will remember is the humiliation afterward.
“It’s ruined my life,” she said through tears today. “Not just the incident but the press.”
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Feldman, a married mother of three, has been the target of Internet jokes and prank telephone calls today. She was fired this morning from an assisted living center, where she had been an administrator.
Feldman said her husband, Kelly, has been supportive. She said he faults himself for not going with her when she left her seat to use the restroom before halftime.
“I don’t know what happened,” Lois Feldman said. “But I don’t deny that it did happen because obviously there are police reports.”
Police ticketed Feldman, 38, and Ross Walsh, 26, of Linden for indecent conduct Saturday night.
A security guard who said he saw the two having sex through a gap in a men’s restroom stall flagged down campus police, according to the police report.
By the time an officer arrived, about a dozen people were cheering and laughing in the bathroom while Feldman and Walsh were inside the stall, the report said.
The officer pushed his way through the crowd, opened the door and separated Feldman and Walsh, the report said.
Police described both Feldman and Walsh as upset, drunk and uncooperative.
Chuck Miner, deputy chief of the University of Minnesota police department, said officers tracked down Feldman’s husband.
“I’m not sure how they made contact with her husband, but they needed her husband to help identify her” because she’d given the wrong middle name.
Miner said police didn’t measure the blood-alcohol level of Feldman or Walsh. Asked to respond to Feldman’s claim that she was too drunk to recall the incident, Miner said: “That’s probably an accurate statement.”
Feldman said she’d never met Walsh.
“I don’t know who this man is,” she said today. “I just found out his name in the paper last night.”
Walsh wasn’t immediately available for comment.
Carroll, Feldman’s hometown, is about 60 miles northwest of Linden, where Walsh lives.
Feldman, who describes herself as a light drinker, drank wine at the home of family friends before the football game.
She said she doesn’t remember how much she drank, but the party’s hosts refilled her glass each time it was low “so I’m sure I drank a lot.”
Feldman said her husband later told her he’d tried to talk her out of the game because she was intoxicated.
“He said I didn’t realize it was that bad,” she said.
Feldman said her husband accompanied her to the game, but their friends stayed home.
She said she remembers sitting in the stands one moment and the next “being slammed around by a cop and screaming.”
“Apparently I was panicked and very uncooperative,” she said.
Feldman said she “ran away” from her husband the Metrodome after the incident.
She said a woman she didn’t know offered her a ride home about 11 p.m.
Feldman said she gave her husband’s cell phone number to the woman, who called Kelly Feldman for directions to the couple’s hotel.
Lois Feldman said her attorney has encouraged her to fight the ticket.
“He feels I was taken advantage of in my state of mind,” she said. “This is not me. We’re a very good family. This shouldn’t happen.”
Miner, the campus police officer, said fighting the indecent conduct charge could be a long shot.
“It’s spelled out in the law in Minnesota that intoxication is not a defense to any crime,” he said.
She Was just Cheating on her Husband. She Wasn’t Drunk. She Just like it.
So what’s your question?
I think he’s a nice husband.
wow that is crazy, and her husband SHOULD not be supporting instead he should be filing for divorce
I don’t think I could ever be that drunk.
so do you actually have a question?
Husband is an idiot. I don’t care how drunk you are this doesn’t make sense. I would be filing the next day. Then again that is my opinion.
if the husband supports her then he is a fool
yuck. nasty, wasted sex in a bathroom w/ a complete stranger??? doesnt get more gross than that-
It’s a shame when people use alcohol as an excuse for their actions. You should know how your body responds to alcohol.
And it is proved once again: fact is indeed stranger than fiction!
It boils down to being able to control yourself and drinking responsibly.
“She’s ashamed”…yeah….hookers blow you in a bathroom stall. She’s no better.
Where’s the website to make fun of her? I want in on this action!
and what is the question
I think if she’s blacking out, she has serious issues with alcohol and should probably be in AA, and her husband is an enabler and should be in Al-Anon. I make absolutely no judgments on them, except maybe a bit of pity that the media have chosen to focus on the woman and her relationship with her husband, yet fail to say much about the man who was also drunk and caught in flagrante delicto.
My heart goes out to both of them, because alcoholism is a serious disease that rips families apart.
this is why obama is gonna enforce prohibition, we need it cause dumb ass people get drunk and do this shit, and then they feel sry for themself
I think Mr Walsh should go get checked for an STD.
Here is a pic of her
http://fly2lv.wordpress.com/2008/11/27/picture-of-lois-feldman-38-lady-who-had-sex-in-bathroom-while-her-husband-was-at-his-seat/
WOW. I didn’t even hear about this…. I’m speechless!
Nothing happens in a vacuum…she had to have some sort of starting point for her to just end up in a men’s room stall…and do not blame the alcohol
no guilty parties then
I think she and her husband should hire a very good lawyer and sue the hell out of her former employer. What she did has nothing to do with the job.
As for what she did and her husband supporting her. I think the husband was the one that gave her most of the alcohol. Therefore he should carry some of the responsibility. Her biggest mistake was giving the police a false name, that would be after the fact.
Maybe had the game been more interesting she would have stayed in her seat.
Why would you post the Des Moines Register’s column on here? I feel bad for that lady… she really does seem remorseful about what happened.
I’ve never been that drunk but jesus! Thats extreme…
I don’t believe anyone could get that drunk. I’ve been pretty drunk and I would never have done anything like this. I agree with the police “intoxication is not a defense”
Red
WHAT EVER HAPPENED TO SELF CONTROL?
I at the age of 24 have been intoxicated plenty of times. And each time have had the opportunity to CHOOSE not to do something incredibly asinine.
In my opinion, there is no justification for her behavior. At her age she should know how to control herself and her alcohol. “we are a good family, this shouldn’t have happened?” She’s absolutely right, She needs to exercise her morality a bit.
Maybe I just lack tolerance to those who don’t comprehend common sense.
What a bunch of B.S. It’s sad to see a man (I use that term loosely) in denial and willing to put up with anything his pathetic excuse of a wife dishes out. Thank God I’m not like that.
That’s BS! I’ve been drunk before. I’ve even been stoned outta my mind. I have NEVER done anything that I wouldn’t normally do sober. Whenever anybody use that ole, “I was drunk” excuse it gets on my nerves. That lady may have been drunk but she d a m n sure knew what she was doing. She must’ve wanted some adventure in her life and the liquor allowed her to let her guard down and go for the gusto but she wasn’t unaware of herself or her actions. Her husband’s a fool if he believes her. She should have to pay whatever fine is assessed to her.
As the old Jimmy Buffet song goes…”that’s my story and I’m sticking to it”.
She was taken advantage of for sure…. but to be honest, its hard to be a victim when you’ve put yourself in that situation.
My suggestion is that any time you feel like you’re going to have one glass, of anything… hand your keys over to a DD so your fate isn’t in your clouded mind. I do feel sorry for her, but had she listened to her husband, this wouldn’t have happened.
I have been significantly drunk at football games before.
Those games never resulted in the wrong bathroom or arrest.