my husband has been an alcoholic almost all of his life[ he's 49] he’s been dry now for about one year.
Do you think he will ever go back to drinking? has anybody ever went through this?
He acts like he never wants to drink again, but i just do’nt believe him,thanks.
susyq47
i hope he doesn’t. good luck and I hope you get through this.
if you don’t trust him and don’t give the support that he needs, most probably he will go back to drinking. you are his wife, you should help him get through this.
You need to get a good support system in place for him as well as you in case he does. Good luck.
Is he attending AA or some other program to help him stay sober? How about you? AA is not just for the alcoholic–but for the entire family of the alcoholic. Everyone in your family has been affected by alcohol, now you all need help in dealing with the results and maintaining the changes as well as healing the hurts. It’s free and is a great support system for you, your husband and your children (if you’ve got any).
Good luck!
My husband was an alcoholic when we met, and he always will be, it is a day to day thing. But he hasn’t had a drink in 23 years and I know he won’t ever take another drink. You have to give him lots of support and if he hasn’t gone to AA, take him, it helps. If he ever feels the need arising for a drink, get to a meeting and it reinforces everything so he won’t want it. My husband is a new man since he stopped, he is so kind, loving and caring. I have never met a man like him. He does everything for me. He works so i can stay home, I have back problems and other things. Don’t ever give up on him, he needs to feel appreciated, tell him how proud you are of him and he will want to continue. You MUST believe in him, even if you don’t, make him think you do. If he feels alone he will drink again. If you love him, do whatever it takes. I wish you both the best. I wouldn’t trade my husband for anyone, I love him with all my heart and soul.
If you support him and don’t give a reason to drink then he could be successful.
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People are taking a new look at alcoholism these days. I might suggest you talking to a psychologist who deals with alcoholics on a regular basis.
omg, Honey! RUN! RUN as fast as you can! I left an abusive alcoholic a year and a half ago, he told me a month ago he was doing better, not drinking, etc… 2 weeks ago Friday he called me asking me to get his truck and tools, he was ‘in trouble again’. I left him to get away from the stress, I gave up my house just to save my sanity. I’ve bailed him out almost a dozen times since 1999. He’s doing a mandatory 21 days right now, I wish they’d just keep him.
with the support of a wife that already thinks he is going to fall, he most surely will.
Hi Susyq47. That is a very hard question to answer since everyone is different. I know that it is really hard to beleive that he will never drink again since he probably lied to you many times saying he is going to be sober. My SIL is living with an alcoholic who always swears he is going to clean up after a binge. And he has yet to get the strength to do it.
As another poster has previously said, alcoholism affects the whole family. Some counseling, especially marriage counseling, may be beneficially both to you and your marriage. I am sure you want to give him support and that you truely hope that he will never drink again. But, it is hard after going through all the years of drinking and lying. Try talking to someone.
As for how long will he stay dry, each person is different my Dad has stayed dry for 20 years but he did have a bad spot for a couple of years after he stopped drinking the first time. Good luck. I wish there was a magical answer out there for you.